By John Steley What does reconciliation look like? Anthony Dillon put this question to me some years ago and I have reflected on it often. Do I have an answer? Well, I have to begin with a personal story. My father was a control freak, quite brutally so, although rarely physically. Like all his children I resented it and I carried that resentment around with me for decades until a friend gave me some coaching. My father joined WWII at the age of 19 as the captain of a Fly